Have you ever wondered why breaking up with someone makes your chest area feel so tight that it literally hurts? When you call it quits with a person, you care for or maybe even love, the pain all over your body is too much. You will experience headaches, body aches, and your heart will literally feel this excruciating pain. It’s like as if your world has ended, and that there is no way to fix it and or make it better.
What People Do To Getting Rid Of Their Broken Heart (But To No Avail)
You watch Netflix or read stories in Episode. People drown their sorrows in social media or other internet websites to pass the time. Some consume large amounts of wine or beer, while others are over-exercise or clean the house until their hands bleed. No matter what you do, the pain in your heart is there. It does not go away quickly, and even if you cry so hard or scream so loud, the fact remains that your heart is broken.
Science Proves What Happens To The Body When One Experiences A Broken Heart
- The brain will tell the body that it is hurting.
“Pain can accompany even necessary break-ups and emotional gains. While many of us may be relieved to see an unsatisfying relationships take its last gasp, some may feel acute pain when forced to acknowledge that a relationship or friendship has run its course,” says Suzanne Degges-White Ph.D.
When you break-up with your boyfriend or girlfriend or separate from your spouse (whom you still love), the pain is like no other. It’s like you’ve been physically sucker-punched and at times, while it’s still new, you will be hyperventilating. A psychologist terms this pain as “social rejection” and it is a real pain.
- It is highly probable that you will get fat or thin because the body will want to eat less or overeat.
You will be very sad because of what happened, and it’s understandable. And because you’re feeling that way, your mind will want to binge-eat or won’t like to eat much at all. It is terrible because overeating or under eating is not healthy. The body will experience headaches and stomach pains due to behavior.
- After a break-up, your body will release stress hormones.
Well, naturally, that is the case! When a person is so much in love, the body will release “happy” hormones called oxytocin and dopamine. In opposite, if the person is heartbroken, the body will release stress hormones called cortisol and epinephrine. When there is an abundance of cortisol in the system, the muscles will tense up and swell. It causes head pains, stiff neck, and that choking feeling.
- Depression is inevitable and expected.
“Depression is not a weakness of character, laziness, or a phase. Only one out of four individuals [with depression] seeks treatment. The reason more don’t go for psychotherapy or medication is stigma. They worry they’ll be labeled, deemed undesirable, and other such things,” says Deborah Serani PsyD.
Upon breaking up with your loved one, you will experience a sudden decline in your self-esteem. If you have self-image problems, it is two times as likely to initiate a depressed state compared to other issues. If you are depressed, your head will hurt a lot.
Again, the matter is about rejection, and how your ex-lover rejected you and wanted to move on without you. There was a study about this one conducted by scientists from Virginia Commonwealth University.
- Love is your drug; therefore, there will be a withdrawal.
After a break-up, you will experience “withdrawal.” It is reasonable considering love is your drug, and you’re an addict to it. Withdrawal from anything will manifest many types of body pains. The problem is not just emotional. It is also physical.
While it may seem that sulking and locking in your bedroom while eating a tub of Ben and Jerry’s is the best therapy for a broken heart, it’s really not. Put your sneakers on and some casual clothes. Apply lipstick (for girls), or shave your beard (for guys), then take a walk. It’s better to heal doing things that will uplift your spirit rather than sleeping, eating and moping around.
“As the grieving process progresses you will begin to see your way through to a point at which you can let go in a more proactive and self-protective way—a way that you may eventually come to understand as a new beginning,” says Suzanne Lachmann Psy.D. when explaining about the grieving process of a break up.